Curious facts about sex, rules and meanings for men and women

A journey into the world of sex: its types, rules and attitudes towards intimacy for men and women

The variety of types of sex allows and encourages us to discover new facets of love, facts about sex. Multiply them by individual sexuality and this mechanical act turns into a real sensual symphony.

We suggest you take a little journey into the world of sex and what it means for men and women. It hardly makes sense to spell out definitions of “what sex is” and swing into the loud headlines “All about sex”, but we want you to fill in the gaps in your knowledge of the seemingly familiar types of erotic intimacy by reading this article to diversify and improve your intimate life.

Types of sex by number of participants

Masturbation

The most accessible kind of lovemaking, and in this spicy moment you can make a variety. One way is to make contact with your genitals against a stable surface. Some girls may even bring themselves to orgasm without any external physical action, by strong contraction of the pelvic muscles, of the hips (sometimes this even becomes a problem, for example for female athletes).

Another method, which women usually resort to, but which men can also adopt, is pouring themselves with a strong stream of water, usually under the shower.

A lot of sex toys are also available in sex shops, vibrators and dildos for women and masturbators for men. There are sex dolls of varying degrees of realism for both men and women. For anal lovers of all sexes, there are plugs, balls and other devices.

Couples sex

This is the “classic” act that involves two people. Usually when talking about sex, it is the paired kind of sex that is assumed.

Couples sex

Group sex

This sexual interaction involves more than two people. The most common is threesome (triolism, scientifically speaking). The mass phenomenon in a group act is called an orgy, and there is no limit to how many people can participate.

Swing sex: a group practice involving lovers who are in a couple is worth highlighting separately. A popular stereotype is that swingers necessarily engage in couples and swap partners, but in reality such relationships involve a whole palette of interactions. They can include polyamorous unions and adventurous singles.

Love for specific parts of the body

This is, of course, very tentative. Usually, such intercourse focuses on a particular area of the body, such as the penis or the female genitals, and sometimes the focus may shift from one erogenous zone to another.

Vaginal sex

This includes all sex with vaginal penetration. The only exception: if the tongue penetrates it, this would be oral sex.

Fingers, a penis or sex toys, or any elongated hard object, may be involved in this type of sex. To increase the sensitivity of the vaginal walls and to make the girth more tight (which enhances the partner’s pleasurable sensations) there are Kegel exercises that can be done either without everything or with vaginal balls.

Contrary to stereotypes, not all women prefer vaginal sex exclusively. Some cannot relax enough, which can make it uncomfortable and painful, some do not have enough lubrication of their own, and some are simply addicted to other practices.

Vaginal sex

Anal sex

It can involve fingers, a penis, sex toys – only the point of impact changes. On the one hand, anal sex is accessible to all, without reference to gender or orientation. On the other hand, it is complicated, requires more preparation and has more safety requirements.

  • First of all, you should not have it too often, otherwise it could lead to health problems in the future. Proctologists recommend having anal sex no more than once every 1-2 weeks. Experimentation with anal dilation is particularly harmful. Women practising this kind of sex are not advised to switch to vaginal sex immediately afterwards, in order to avoid the introduction of pathogenic bacteria from the intestines into the vaginal microflora. Of course, there is always the risk of STD infection, so the principle “you can’t get pregnant, so you can do it without a condom” only works with regular partners in whom you are 100% sure.
  • The second point is hygiene. Some people just need to wash, while others resort to enemas, which should be administered at least 3-4 hours before intercourse.
  • The third is the complexity of the process itself. The anus does not produce lubricant, and lubricant must be used to avoid injuring your partner. Silicone-based lubricants are incompatible with condoms, and water-based ones require relatively frequent “refreshing” – you have to stop periodically to add lubricant during the process. Like vaginal sex, anal sex requires relaxation. So for the first experiences, be patient and choose as slow a pace as possible.
  • Finally, there is a psychological issue. Firstly, homophobic attitudes are an obstacle for many people. Secondly, the anus is associated with the act of defecation, which leads to associations with something dirty. This is not to mention those who consider any sex other than classical sex to be perverted.

Despite prejudice, anal sex has remained popular throughout human history. For some, the area around the opening is an erogenous zone. Some like the sensation of being filled up inside.

For men in the passive role, stimulation of the prostate gives additional pleasure. In the active role, the sensation of close embrace of the penis may be attractive (but not all men like it, some do not accept this kind of sex). In heterosexual couples with an ongoing trusting relationship, anal sex offers a wide range of sensations without the risk of getting pregnant.

Oral sex

It is the stimulation of the genitals by the mouth. Male ones are blow jobs, female ones are cunnilingus, plus rimming – oral interaction with the anus.

Such practices are embarrassing for some people. In their minds it is often associated with something degrading, as “clean” (mouth) comes into contact with “dirty” (genitals). Sometimes the feeling of squeamishness does not extend to the whole process, but to a certain part of it.

For example, a girl does not mind giving her partner a blow job, but is against any interaction with semen. Or these interactions may strictly exclude some options (e.g. ejaculating on the face or swallowing semen).

Partners in heterosexual couples worry about lack of knowledge and experience, fearing to make a mistake and to be seen as a bad lover. Whereas “classical” sex is more or less understood by many, oral sex seems to be something akin to high art. As in any business, everything comes with practice, and in contact with the partner and his or her personal preferences.

Manual sex

There can be a bit of confusion here. Some people call manual sex any sex in which the hands interact with the genitals. In fact, it only includes stimulation of the penis.

Many consider this type of lovemaking “not real” and consider it only as foreplay or as an alternative. At its core, it is no different from any other sexual practice: it too can lead to vivid orgasms; there are many techniques by which one can diversify the experience. Just like any other intimate process, manual sex can help bring partners closer to each other and strengthen their feelings for each other.

Other types of sex

We have listed the most common types, not including the rare ones, such as the interaction of the genitals with other parts of the body (feet, breasts, buttocks, elbow or knee bend, etc.). If you continue to explore your sexuality, there are many other interesting kinds of intimate pleasures for you:

  • role-playing games – costumed or not;
  • extreme types of sex – in public places, in dangerous conditions, at risk of being seen, etc;
  • BDSM is an entire culture based on the thrill of sex through the use of brutal physical force;
  • virtual sex – by telephone, video link or texting;
  • non-contact sex is an unusual practice that can either be done separately or be part of any of the above. The main condition is not to touch the genitals, but to experience sexual pleasure (and in some cases orgasm).

When talking about unhealthy sex (deviance), modern sexology only deals with cases that are harmful to either the patient or those around them. If even one point in the rule “voluntary adult interaction” is violated, this is criminalised: we are talking about paedophilia, bestiality and rape.

The meaning of sex for modern lovers

Today, sex is not always associated with love and childbirth. Often its main function is to have safe pleasure and to share it with another, and respect for one’s partner may be sufficient for this. In the civilised world, therefore, the condemnation of one-night stands and friendship sex is gradually disappearing.

The meaning of sex for modern lovers

Psychological literacy is trending: when partners notice that sex is becoming a marker of problems in the relationship, they go to family therapists rather than to trainers for “Give him/her unforgettable pleasure” courses. More and more people realise that sex is not a means to manipulate, to pay for something or to compensate for inner feelings.

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