Despite easy access to sexological literature, sex education lectures and specialised films, ordinary cunnilingus appears to many as super-science. It is not surprising, though, as adequate material is still to be found, and “Category X” movies can give you an idea of what it looks like, but not the technique.

Men go to all lengths: some sign up for a course on “How to caress a girl”, some train on tomatoes, others go into deep denial, “not a royal thing. Let’s talk frankly about how to caress a woman with your tongue and give her pleasure, the main function of the tongue in sex, oral caressing techniques, which parts of her body also need to be touched.

The main function of the tongue in sex

• This information may come as a revelation to some, but the main function of the tongue in intimacy is to say affectionate words. Famous sex gurus, authors of training courses “How to caress a woman to bring her to 100 orgasms per minute” perfectly work with language (literally and figuratively), but even they are not psychics. Therefore, before honing your girlfriend’s arsenal of carefully memorized techniques and beautiful caresses, ask her if she needs it.
• Revelation number 2. There are no universal techniques. Sex coaches can brag all they want about their experience, but they can’t know how your girlfriend likes it. That means they can’t give you any guarantees that their technique will work.
• Revelation number 3. There is no shame in talking about it before sex. After all, it’s both in your interest and the girl’s. None of you are psychic, so talking remains the best way to communicate. In a calm and trusting atmosphere, ask her what she likes and what she would like to try with you. If both of you are in the right mood, this conversation may well develop into pleasant foreplay.
• What to do if the girl is not very experienced at it and doesn’t know how she might like it herself? Then revelation number 4 will help: There is no shame in asking questions during sex either.

Talk to her about her preferences

The question may arise: “What about the art of reading body reactions, which is so much talked about in trainings?” In fact, it only works for partners who have been in a long-term sexual relationship, where some of the questions can be omitted and guided by sensation. If you are just beginning your journey, it is worth remembering that there are no one-size-fits-all techniques or universal reactions.

There is another argument in favour of frank talk. When everything goes on in proud silence, a girl can fake an orgasm so as not to offend her partner. When she sees that he cares and cares about her pleasure, there is no need to fake it.

One last point: why talk about anything after sex? Of course, so that the next one will be even better! After all, no one has cancelled the work on mistakes. Your helpers are the questions again: “Did you like it when I did that?”, “When I did that, I thought you were tense, should I not do that again?”, “What would you like to do again?”. Maybe she would like to experiment.

Is there something on top too?

Cunnilingus is a great way to diversify your sex life, but it’s also something to come to. Speaking of oral caresses, the most popular is the path that leads to her “holy of holies”, but then other areas of the body, where many important erogenous zones are located, are neglected.

To incorporate the whole of a woman’s body, start with a gentle massage of the feet, gently rising higher, but neglecting the most intimate part of her body. Invite her to roll over onto her stomach and give a gentle relaxing massage to her hands (going from her fingertips to her shoulders), back and buttocks. In the process, you can lean into her ear and whisper something nice (and don’t forget the right questions).

Next you can suggest that the girl roll over onto her back again and kiss her on the lips. Next is the standard, beloved by many: neck, chest, belly.

What makes this process really exciting and intimate is the details. The first is the time given to each part of the body.

This can be turned into a fun game: the girl can guide your speed with the words “on” and “stop”. Once you’ve played a couple of times, you’ll know exactly what to pay more attention to and what you can safely skip.

Secondly, it’s consistency. There’s nothing stopping you from changing it, and also going back to the previous part of her body.

Pussy Eating Technique

Here we are at the coveted spot. But first, a micro course in anatomy.

The clitoris is the only part of a girl’s body that nature created just for her pleasure. It and it alone is responsible for the orgasm. And there is only one orgasm, there are no “vaginal”, “anal”, much less “oral” or “nipple” orgasms.

The clitoris is a whole system surrounding the vagina from the inside and only a small part of it comes out. Whether you act directly on it, or from inside the vagina (with a penis, fingers or sexual accessories), either way, you are stimulating the clitoris.

There is a small percentage of girls who have such sensitive other erogenous zones (e.g. nipples) that they do not need to touch the clitoris to have an orgasm. But even in this case, the sensations a woman experiences during oral caressing are answered by the same clitoris, even when untouched.

Not all girls are aroused and orgasmic by internal stimulation of the clitoris, through the vagina. There is no pathology in this, it is a normal and quite common physiological feature. For most people the most important part of sex is external stimulation. Therefore, it is to this little bump that tongue movements should be directed.

What to do next? Tongue caresses can be different: up and down, side to side, in a circle, patting movements. Here you can also think of techniques from sex coaches, such as the popular “alphabet,” where letters in alphabetical order are written out with the tongue. Fondling can be done at different speeds and with varying degrees of intensity. Here, as in all processes, everything is individual.

The only thing that is worth mentioning is that we shouldn’t believe any porn film that shows girls having orgasm after orgasm as a result of aggressive action on the clitoris. It looks spectacular and cinematic, but most of the girls will feel pain and discomfort. More often than not, a pinpoint effect is enough, without a wide amplitude.

Conclusion

Obviously, on the one hand, there is nothing difficult about this kind of caressing: the techniques are simple and it is not necessary to memorise them all, as they may not suit your girlfriend. On the other hand, the main difficulty is to remember what she likes. This is where the real intimacy and uniqueness of the sexual relationship is born.